What A Woman Blogging About Body Image Taught Me.

Back in January, exactly 8 weeks ago,  I was browsing through some blogs and came across a post entitled 'What A Woman Talking About Chips Taught Me About Body Image' over at Pouting In Heels it stirred something inside of me and prompted me to STOP and think about the lifestyle I was living...

A completely healthy lifestyle in terms of what I was eating but in fact it was starting to destroy my confidence and it was having an adverse effect on Ellie, she wasn't eating, she had become OBSESSED with how she looked, fussed with what she was eating and was actually hardly eating anything at all. There was even one point where she sat on the stairs in tears in tears because a pair of jeans didn't fit her. Now, let me explain said jeans didn't fit her because they were simply too small..an age 8 pair of jeans on an age 10, who wears age 11, body. she had simply outgrown them...but she didn't see this. 

She saw she was ''too fat'' as she stood there trying to pinch some skin from her stomach as she shouted at me telling me it was because she was fat. She wouldn't listen to me when I was trying to explain she had just outgrown them. 

Roll on 8 weeks...not a massive amount of time I know BUT in that time a lot has changed so Kate here is a note to you..

To Kate, 

Thank you Kate, thank you, thank you for saving me from a life of counting 'syns'. From a life of checking calories and fat content. From a life of asking....'Do I look OK?''. From a life of pulling myself down. A life where I kept telling myself I wasn't good enough.

A life where what I looked like, what I weighed and how I felt RULED over everything...

Thank you Kate for saving my daughter from a future that followed the same as mine had done, from saving her from thoughts that could easily have turned into an eating disorder had I continued the path I had chosen.

I know some may read this and think I am being dramatic, which maybe I am. But wouldn't you be if your daughters well being was at risk? 

I now don't care what I eat, and I am definitely no longer shouting about it. I don't count calories, syn's, fat content...anything. If I want it I eat it...I use my common sense to live a healthy lifestyle. I go running once a week, I exercise once a week, I walk EVERY day. 

Last night I had warm fudge cake and ice cream...Wednesday night I had the same and a glass of wine...there was no guilt, no counting took place and I enjoyed the food I was eating, actually tasting it, I enjoyed every sip of wine that I took. 

And Ellie? She is now eating properly. She now rarely complains about what is on her plate, what is in her lunchbox. She hasn't complained about been 'fat' I haven't heard the word ugly come from her mouth. I haven't heard her obsessing over the fact that all of her friends have 'boyfriends' including one 10 year old who apparently has a 14 year old boyfriend....which to be honest I have told Ellie is BS! this 'friend' is trying to make herself look good I am sure of it! I mean what parent would let their 10 year old have  a 14 yer old boyfriend...just who?

So to you Kate, who probably just thought you was writing a post that would get people thinking, not realising it would change a life, maybe 2 life's if you count Ellie too, I thank you from the bottom of my heart, I don't have any words that can tell you just how thankful I am. 

The Demons are gone and its with thanks to you, 

Lots of love, 

Becky X

Beau Twins


  1. Becky - I am SO proud of you and beyond thrilled that a post that I felt compelled to write a few months ago, touched you in such a way.

    Your post is wonderful and made me cry with happiness (trying to inspire other women is why I blog!) however there is absolutely no thank you needed. YOU have made the changes. YOU have done something about your life. YOU are inspirational. Well done and thank you for making my month :) xxx

    1. Thank you so much for reading Katie. And your job here is done! Not only inspired by the words you wrote but compelled to change my live and my daughters future. Thank you for making me the error in my ways, an that there was a light at the end of the tunnel. XX

  2. That's so lovely that Ellie is now not worrying about food and image any more. It's hard to get out of habits, but fantastic that you realised how it was affecting your daughter and changed what you were doing to help her! A great post. :) xxxx

  3. That is beautiful. I'm so pleased that changed your approach to food. I've had battles with eating disorders most of my life but now I'm much better. Since not caring what others think. I grew out of it. But it can creep back in especially when you count calories etc. I put on 6 stone with the girls and I needed to health wise lose weight. I'm usually a fitness freak and I love being outdoors. Being big didn't make me want to workout. Now I've lost a ton of weight in loving my workouts again. But I love naughty food in moderation. Lucky the girls have seen me eat sensibly and enjoy my food. They are foodies but they always reach for the healthy options (well, now they do) great post lovely lady and well said. I'm so pleased you and Ellie are in a happy place xxxx

  4. Oh my gosh don't freak me out about boyfriends, my daughter has just turned 11, no boyfriend talk yet. I have been getting the "I'm not pretty" thing lately though. I have never dieted in front of my girls, I don't want them to be critical of their bodies because of my influence. It's tough though isn't it? Love you to link up sometime with reflectionsfromme.com Mummy & Us linky. #Wellbeing Wednesday

  5. It wasn't until I changed my mindset that I was able to start losing weight lol. This is some food for thought (excuse the pun) lol. Nice post


    Angela from Daysinbed.com

  6. Such a lovely post. Miss C is 10 and wears 12-13 year clothing because she is just so tall. I thankfully have been there and messed up with my body image well before Miss C was born. I am aware just how fat i was when i was younger and i was bullied because of it so i do watch what she eats but she doesn't know that. #wellbeing wednesday

  7. This is such a great post and I'm so glad that reading a post changed your outlook! I do SW and even though my boys are young I am so careful about what I talk about in front of them. When we go out I have cake and ice cream, I don't deprive myself but I do eat healthily and exercise regularly as I want them to see that too. I think it is so amazing that you have changed your own outlook but also influenced your daughters body confidence through doing that! xx #wellbeingwednesday

  8. Love this post! I did read the other you referenced also. I love your approach now I will make sure I have an approach like that with Olivia :) Thank you for linking on#wellbeingwednesday


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