Getting Healthy and Stopping The 'Diets'.

I just started to read a post over at Pouting In Heels it's all about body image and it starts with a tale of a Mum and Daughter talking about chips, and I mean reading it made me stop and come over to a blank blog page and has made me write this post, the fastest post I have ever written (start to finish in less than 20 minutes) because its all honest, its from my heart and because I mean every word, I hit publish without even thinking about it, because that young girl, that Mum that Kate heard...could easily have been me.


I don't want this to jut sit as a draft for me to never see again. I want it out there so that you all know, for you to stop me the next time you see/read/hear me complaining, moaning, feeling guilty. 

As you all know I was a Slimming World member for the most of last year, I stopped in October due to me being a bit ill and have since made an attempt to return that lasted 2 weeks and I was due to start back in January too BUT I am yet to return, It doesn't mean I am a failure, but there's one big thing stopping me...

This girl....



My beautiful, gorgeous, kind, loving 10 year old Ellie. The girl who has started obsessing with foods, fussing over foods, breathing in so she doesn't look 'fat, crying because a stupid boy at school called her ugly because of her glasses. 

So for now its time to stop counting the syns, stop checking calories, stop searching menu's for the best option, its time to stop feeling guilty for that piece of chocolate cake at pudding. Time to stop feeling ridiculously guilty because we went for hot chocolate. Its time to start enjoying life and stop panicking about what the scales will say on Monday.  It's time to stop with the 'I'm too fat for that dress'.

Dean will always come home from work and greet me with an 'Alright Beautiful' or a 'Hiya Gorgeous' and I will shout at him to stop being stupid, time to stop telling Dean 'don't call me beautiful, you know I'm not'. 

Don't get me wrong I don't intend to turn into Waynetta Slob but it's time to start caring for my body in a healthy way, thinking of myself in a positive way. Because if my husband and kids are telling me I am beautiful then I must be...right? It's time to start taking the time to take a pride in the way I look, instead of moaning about how I look, do something about it by taking 5 minutes in the morning to just put some makeup on. 

And not so that Ellie things you have to live a life wearing makeup, I mean I only wear a little foundation and mascara, but because I know when I have make up on I feel better about myself.

And if I feel better about myself I know I wont be moaning about myself. 

And if I'm not moaning at myself, fighting with myself, hating myself then Ellie wont be hearing it and she wont be thinking that the way someone looks is important. 

I have started Thinking Slimmer, which works on your mindset. There is no 'diet' its all about your mind, your thinking, your attitude. Ellie knows nothing about it, she doesn't need to know. All she needs to see is a healthy attitude towards food, and weight, and body image. 

So FU*K YOU demons, FU*K YOU! I'm not listening to you anymore...I'm not letting you rule my life...I'm not letting you ruin my 10 year old's child hood...I'm not letting you make me make my daughter hate herself. (does that even make sense?)...I'm not letting you tell me I'm not beautiful anymore...I'm not letting you tell me I'm fat anymore. I'M NOT, I'M NOT, I'M NOT!


Beau Twins

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16 comments:

  1. Went straight to my heart that did. Sometimes as a parent, we're not realising the effects our words about ourselves have on our kids, it's probably something a lot of us can relate to.

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  2. Absolutely brilliant and you are so right, I don't want to waste my life away counting points / syns and weighing everything in sight. I especially don't want any of that to rub off on G, he is skinny enough as it is! I'm loving the Slimpod too, I feel so much more relaxed about getting through each day now :)

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  3. This is so so true! I hate the diet industry and the way it hooks people into this vicious cycle. Yes it can help those who need help but lifestyle is what needs to change not turning up once a week to get weighed (WTF!). Friends deny themselves things, even going out as it us weigh in day then pig out straight after. I know more people who have lost using myfitnesspal as it tracks what you're putting in your mouth and gets you thinking about healthier choices. I know full well that to lose my extra two stone I need to stop stuffing the cakes in and exercise. Simples. It's hard to be strong though when the media tells us how we should be (I've just posted about this myself). Good for you.

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  4. Well expressed and I agree with you. I don't do diets at all and never mention anything in front of my children but I know I'm unhappy with my weight and lifestyle and that impacts on them. I'm delighted with my Slimpod and can see my thoughts changing towards food after only a few days so I'm excited about the future and am hoping that I can learn to love myself a little more too. Xx

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  5. Great attitude, there! And I'm sure it will send positive messages to your girl. I think I should accept compliments gracefully too. #sharewithme

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  6. I think you've hit the nail on the head, food shouldn't rule our lives and make us feel guilty. It's fuel and that's it. Good on you for taking a fresh look at it #brilliantblogposts

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  7. I need to a hug from you. I am forever obsessed with my whole being because a lot of people called me names as a kid. I cant kick out that demon.. I need help in kicking it out of me =(

    #brillblogposts

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  8. A brilliant post!
    Thanks for writing, it's made me sit and think about what my daughter sees

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  9. This brought tears to my eyes, Kate's post was amazing and made us all stop and think whether we have girls or boys, you are beautiful and personally I hate anything that makes you think of food in numbers and ridiculously syns-I did the Slimming World diet and it messed with my head. Thanks for being brave, for writing this and inspiring others to start re-educating ourselves about our bodies and how we talk to ourselves. Thanks for linking up to #brilliantblogposts x

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  10. I love this post Becky!! Accepting compliments is tough, but accept them because you are amazing x

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  11. Brilliant post! And exactly why I have never joined any diet schemes. I really need to lose weight but I also need to learn to be comfortable in my body as I'm losing weight, not just when I'm at the point I want to be. Because my 14 year old is body conctious too and I know I've not helped that by being negative in myself. If you moan, I shall give you a smack and I would love it if you could remind me if you see me moan too xx

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  12. I totally and utterly agree with you! Whenever I diet I talk about getting fit and healthy and I try never to say that I am losing weight. Grace has said that she would like to get healthy and has signed up for the Sugar Sway with Change 4 Life. I would much rather make sure she wanted to feel good and didn't obsess with her looks. Well done on setting a great example to your daughter. Thank you for linking to #PoCoLo x

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  13. I completely agree and I have been trying to sort myself over the past year and it went wrong with diets and lack of exercise. And the biggest problem I have is my mindset and I really need to change it. I have been trying to learn alot about fitness and nutrition and being healthier not dieting. Great post. Thanks for the encouragement too. Thanks for linking up to Share With Me #sharewithme

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  14. I love your attitude towards diets it's refreshing. I don't usually diet but I eat healthy and eat naughty food in moderation. Since having the girls I gained lots of weight. Healthy eating and exercise is how I'm loosing it although sometimes I need a helping hand to stay away from the cake tin. It's so important we don't inflict out own issues on to our children. They have enough to deal with. I think you are doing the right thing and a very good mum for it. Your Ellie is gorgeous. Thank you for sharing such a beautiful post lovely and linking up with me on #WellbeingWednesday :-) xxx

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  15. Wow. I agree it's not the diet but the "healthy thinking" which is important. This week my 7 year old daughter told me I look like a caterpillar due to all the rolls on my body lol. Then she told me she was on a diet! Me and my hubby nipped it in the bud immediately.

    Angela from Daysinbed.com

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  16. Really great post, well done on speaking out. I'm personally all for body positivity!

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